{"id":263,"date":"2003-10-13T22:05:54","date_gmt":"2003-10-14T06:05:54","guid":{"rendered":"\/?p=263"},"modified":"2007-01-18T09:26:03","modified_gmt":"2007-01-18T17:26:03","slug":"conditional-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.aprilgem.com\/log\/?p=263","title":{"rendered":"Conditional Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

To no one in particular,<\/p>\n

Everyone wants unconditional love. I cannot give it to you.<\/p>\n

If you want unconditional love, go find yourself a dog, a god, or an enabling personality. No matter how neglectful, abusive, or hurtful you might be, you can be sure to find unwavering love from those three.<\/p>\n

But not me.<\/p>\n

If you strike me or neglect me, I will not look at you with puppy dog eyes or fetch your slippers. If you kill or maim another human being, I will not forgive you or absolve you of all guilt. If you regularly hurt me or trample upon my soul, I will not justify your actions or hope you get better with time.<\/p>\n

Why not? Because I don’t like being a victim. Because I don’t hate myself that much. Because pity is not what I want from people. That’s not the kind of attention I like.<\/p>\n

The love I give will be like the warmth of sunshine, but not if all you give me is stormy rain. Love isn’t like that. It wasn’t meant to be. But if you think otherwise, then your idea of love is warped.<\/p>\n

And you will only pass it on to your children if you get that unconditional love you seek so much. That’s why I cannot give it to you.<\/p>\n

I will love my children better than that.<\/p>\nShare this post:

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To no one in particular, Everyone wants unconditional love. I cannot give it to you. If you want unconditional love, go find yourself a dog, a god, or an enabling personality. No matter how neglectful, abusive, or hurtful you might be, you can be sure to find unwavering love from those three. But not me. If you strike me or neglect me, I will not look at you with puppy dog eyes or fetch your slippers. If you kill or…<\/p>\n

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